Title: 12 Steps to Mr Right
Author: Cindi Madsen
Publication Date: 26 Sept 2016
Source: Review Copy
Synopsis from Goodreads
12 steps to finding Mr. Right, composed by dating coach extraordinaire Savannah Gamble
1: Admit to being powerless over your attraction to the wrong type of guy. (Like Lincoln Wells, who broke your heart after an unforgettable one-night stand.)
2: Believe Mr. Right is out there.
3: Take inventory of past mistakes. (See step #1.)
4: Make a list of qualities you want in a man. (Avoid charming baseball players/reason you made these rules in the first place)
5: Take charge of your own life.
6: Learn to love yourself.
7: Sort the hookup guys from the relationship guys. (Avoid a painful brushoff after an amazing night together.)
8: Never, ever settle. (Even if the chemistry is off-the-charts.)
9: Don’t believe you can change a guy. (Once a commitment-phobe, always a commitment-phobe)
10: Communicate your needs.
11: Open your heart & love fully. (Still working on this one…)
12: Don’t ever, ever stray from the steps.
I’ve got to be honest and say I am completely torn about my feelings for this story, on the one hand I loved Savannah and her inspirational abilities and how she turned a devastating experience into a successful career. However, I didn’t really connect with Lincoln; unlike Savannah I couldn’t quite get past his previous actions and his inability to express his emotions. I did conclude that I was probably projecting my own experiences onto the narrative but in this case I was unable to view the events objectively. Plus we all know I rave about reading being subjective so I have to live by my motto 😉
Savannah and Linc have a history stemming from college where they were the best of friends until one fateful evening when they indulged the sparks between them. Instead of it growing into a roaring fire, it was quickly doused with cold water and left in a pile of ashes. Savannah managed to take her hurt and heartbreak and re-direct the negativity by creating a self-help programme for women focusing on finding Mr Right. I loved this aspects, all the points Savannah makes through her 12 steps make complete sense as you view them. Unfortunately, Savannah hasn’t has closure from the experience that has led her to where she is today. So when Linc comes back into her life, there is a lot of unresolved issues between them and the chemistry is still there fighting its way to the surface.
Although it is obvious Savannah and Lincoln belong together, I couldn’t help but put barriers between them because of Linc’s previous behaviour. Even when the full reasoning behind his conduct is revealed, it didn’t drastically alter my opinion of him, in fact it made me view him as selfish and inconsiderate. I really think the story would have benefitted from having Linc’s perspective alongside Savannah’s in order to truly understand his actions and enable a deeper connection to him.
Ultimately, 12 Steps to Finding Mr Right shows that everything happens for a reason, as without the devastation in college Savannah would not have discovered her true path of dating guru and motivational life coach. It also shows that even with all the dating rules in place, any relationship is ultimately a leap of faith, there are no guarantees to a happily ever after.